The first time you fall in love is a wonderful, angst-ridden, terrifying and exciting experience. If you were like most teens, you constantly thought about that person and wanted to be with them.
For parents, watching teens go through this can be exactly the same - minus the 'wonderful' and 'exciting' part. Your days were spent obsessing about when you could talk next, and kiss next. (Remember back in the days when there was only such a thing as a ‘home phone’? Today your smitten teen has all of the same desires to be connected with their crush, but with the added possibilities that come with social media, mobile phones, and almost endless opportunities for communicating with their beloved.
In that perfect world where you get everything right as a parent, conversations about relationships, dating, and intimacy need to start as early as possible (probably around the age of eight years).
By this time, many children have already had their first crush, but they’re still a long way off having a deep emotional relationship with someone.
These conversations need to happen if we are to educate our children about how to have healthy relationships.
Regardless of how old your child is, chat with them about things like; Some of these challenges can be resolved by being prepared ahead of time and discussing expectations together.
When our children know what we expect, they are more likely to conform to it (so long as we don’t get so harsh that we make them want to rebel).
The following tips can also be useful in helping teens balance their relationship with the rest of their lives: How to survive your teens’ personal relationship breakdown It is almost inevitable.While some high-school sweethearts stay together, most don’t.The break-up is bound to happen, and when it does, our kids need us to be there to help.Disapproval Sometimes we’ll be delighted that a relationship has ended.We try to hide it, but we end up saying something like, These relationships are a part of growing up.We know this at a basic level, but it’s worth emphasising because it can be so challenging when our teens fall in love, and when their world comes crashing down.