Some people imagine that there might be a way to threaten or coerce an alcoholic into quitting drinking. If you threaten them, they will simply withdrawal further away from you.
Most, if not all alcoholics, are slowly self destructing, and they know it.
Threats mean nothing to someone who is self destructing. So basically, there is no way to convince an alcoholic to quit drinking.
If you succeed in shaming them, this will only make them want to drink more because they will truly feel shamed. You can influence their behavior and decisions, just not in a very fast or direct manner. Much like trying to convince someone to quit drinking, this can be a difficult task.
But getting someone to agree to treatment is much easier, but at the same time, it is probably not very useful. If we did then we would have solved the problem of addiction and recovery.
Here’s why: Recovering alcoholics who are sober now will talk about a point of surrender that they reached in their drinking. The best we can do is to encourage people towards this moment.
Since you’re here, you probably have a friend or loved one who is an alcoholic.
And you probably want to know: how do you help an alcoholic in the real world? Let’s find out: It is a hard fact to swallow at first, but the truth of the matter is that you are probably not going to be able to are going to experience a loss of control and real powerlessness.
Instead, if you focus on changing your own behavior, you will experience full control and an empowering mindset.
This is how you go about helping an alcoholic: by focusing on your own behavior and how you choose to interact with the alcoholic…by focusing on how you can manipulate or change the other person. I will explain more below about how changing your behavior can help the alcoholic.
This is a very difficult thing to do, most would say it is downright impossible.
But that doesn’t mean that you can’t make a difference in the potential sobriety of a person.