Talking to a friend of mine the other day, I expressed my opinion that all single women should consider dating more than one man at a time. What I call “a pair and a spare dating program,” involves keeping 3 men in rotation until such time as one rises to the top like cream.
One thing I know is that men do this multiple dating thing as a matter of course.
They don’t meet just ONE woman and drop everything and everyone to date her! See, having more than one man around keeps you entertained and having a good time with a couple of fun people.
But women do this almost automatically for some reason. You get attention, affection, and you have something to do on weekends with either Man A, Man B or Man C.
It kills me how females meet a guy and start obsessing over every word he says, every gesture he makes, dissecting and overanalyzing everything to the nth degree, and wondering “where this is going? If you dropped them drawers and assumed that meant a commitment where none existed BEFORE you got horizontal… And by mixing it up, you don’t get too caught up on any one fella.
You therefore don’t waste your time with an unsuitable knucklehead trying to “make it work.” And you certainly don’t start focusing on him to the exclusion of all other guys, nor do you overload any one guy with obligations and responsibilities he hasn’t signed on for.
Sure, you will meet some men that demand instant and total loyalty from the first date.
Guys that glob on like that are kinda scary, and I would imagine that men feel the same way when women glob onto them. One guy (older than me by 8 years), gruffly told me to “get rid of all my other niggahs” after we talked on the phone twice and went on one lunch date! Men have expressed to me that a woman dating more than one guy at a time is judged to be a player, a hoochie mama, a gold digger that uses men for entertainment. These guys haven’t proven themselves to be anything special yet, and have no right to demand that we give up investigating all other possibilities in our search for our Mr. Speaking of three, I think I need to make sure you understand that three is the maximum, not the minimum. We have demanding jobs, school, or children we need to tend to.
They are especially fearful that said woman might be SLEEPING WITH ALL THREE GUYS. We have friends, other social obligations, hobbies we enjoy, and extended familiies we need to spend time with as well.
Which means there really isn’t a whole lotta time to spend looking at some man’s face.
So if you meet a new guy that really rocks your world, you let one of your other three guys go and replace him with the new dude.
Women need to stop trying to win men’s approval and be “good girls.” Instead, stand up for your rights when it comes to dating. n=/MSIE\s+([^\);]+)(\)|;)/:l&&(n=/Web Kit\/(\S+)/),n&&n.exec(g());var p=document,q=p.create Element("link");q.rel="stylesheet";q.type="text/css";q.href="