This expert went on a married cheating site — and what she discovered about men is fascinating!
I recently went on the "cheating" dating site Ashley Madison while gathering information for my e Book on online dating. For over 12 years now, this website kicked off a boom of dating sites for people.
The success of such infidelity sites makes a lot of sense, because they grant married "daters" anonymity. They want a "lover" to text them saying that she's thinking about them.
But here is the amazing discovery I made during my time on Ashley Madison—Most of these men are more interested in relating romantically than they are in just having sex! But the men I encountered (through email, phone conversations and in-person meetings) made it clear that they're looking ... Many put up pictures of their erect penises, but after receiving the admiration they wanted, it didn't come up in conversation again. while he was with his wife waiting for a movie to start. But when we spoke on the phone, it was with tones of caring and desire, like lovers. It turns out, most were not having sex with their wives.
But even without sex, people can feel loved and adored. But they couldn’t justify divorce because of the children they adored (even adult children) and the sense of family they appreciated. One man stayed in his marriage after his wife indulged in at least two long affairs.
At that point, he was no longer willing to have sex with her.
After years of that sexless existence, he finally went online to find married women to share encounters with. He wanted an affectionate, caring exchange that also included sexual activity.
Another man's wife was chronically ill, depressed and didn't enjoy sex. When failing, he sought out interested women, but never actually consummated sex with any.
A man dating a woman who was eager for sex was upset by her lack of interest in romantic dinners. While I didn’t have sex with any of these men, I found it fascinating to interact with them.I had the greatest rationalizations and research for my book.Their yearning for love, for being cherished, and feeling wanted, was so strong.These men gobbled up any attention from me, with more clearly desired.While they did talk about sex, it was not the primary focus.They liked my interest in them—that I wanted to hear their stories and learn about their lives. But ultimately I couldn’t give them what was missing in their lives.