My friend believes that women try to take on masculine qualities to overcompensate for their feelings of vulnerability.
A woman like this doesn’t (appear to) want to learn from you or expand her own perspective, she wants to impose hers on you and get you to see the error of your ways.
She even expects you to validate this self-absorbed chaos.
She would rather complain and argue about “the way men are” than figure out what common ground the two of you have and try to work with you.
Until I started having substantive conversations with a female friend who has a history of emotional trauma, I had no idea why so many women choose to act in masculine ways.
I didn’t understand why the concept of the “fierce” woman was seen as a desirable model for behavior.
I thought these women were difficult by nature and proud of it because they didn’t really want a man, unless he was a doormat or asshole supreme.I couldn’t understand why some women wanted to dominate men, so I assumed that they were either sadistic or domineering.Not only that, but I assumed that they didn’t want to be loved, they wanted to use men and be self-aggrandizing while also complaining about the quality of men they attracted. First off, I came to realize that these women thought their behavior was attractive.To make matters more perplexing, they expected attractive men to find their behavior attractive (or acceptable).My friend said that the influences these women have in their lives (family, friends, frenemies, and the media) have convinced them that feminine ideals of kindness, humility, and submission are weak, humiliating, and pathetic.Taking it a step further, they feel that they have to sacrifice “respect” if they want to be feminine.