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Tragically, a vast number of them will even tell you that they want real life, but have no intention of ever meeting you because they are married, in a long term relationship, or simply not interested in anything more than playing a D/s relationship game online. Great idea, but it won't make you feel any better when you find out the Dom of your dreams actually lives in Estonia with his wife and five children and had no intention whatsoever of actually loving you or meeting you. There is nothing wrong with being new, but you must be aware that you are responsible for your own D/s education.
I've also heard my share of stories about that great "Dom" turning out to be a female. I have yet to meet an obviously new "Dom" who is willing to admit that he knows next to nothing.
My advice: You have the right to make a Dom earn your trust just as you must earn his. This is disturbing as great damage can be caused by dishonesty in this area. If no one answers, keep looking until you find a room willing to discuss your concerns.
Don't be so needy that you will fall for any romantic line tossed at you only to end up with a heartache when you find out he is a player. My favorite newbie line, "I was born Dominant".....or, "I've been a Dom my entire life." Those lines should tip you off. Bottom line: Know as much as possible about domination and submission BEFORE seeking a Dom.
Take your time and get to know him as a man before even thinking about discussing a D/s relationship. They may have a dominant personality BUT that does NOT NOT NOT make a man A Dominant in the D/s sense. 3) Many Online Dominants are simply looking for an ego boost, an orgasm, or both.
If the man is only interested in talking about kinky sex or how Domly he is, chances are he isn't really interested in you as a person at all. You have needs and desires as well as the Dominant. A lot of the Doms online are only interested in their own "wants" and will use a submissive to boost their self esteem or fulfill sexual fantasies.
There is nothing wrong with becoming friends first. They fail to tell you the truth about not really wanting a 24/7 relationship even though they know that is what you want.
My advice: Be very vocal about what you expect to get from a D/s relationship. You have the right to not even discuss anything sexual if that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Many players will bail when they see you KNOW what you want, you intend to get it, and will NOT play games.