If I could only give one bit of dating advice, it would be to send messages to everyone who takes your fancy.However, when it comes to sending your first message to someone it can be hard to think of what to say.Below, I have outlined some good and bad examples of messages and have given some tips on how to send an effective message on an online dating site.
“Hi James, I really like your profile and you made me laugh with your comment about the kind of girls you usually meet.
I’m not too into the tangoed look myself, but I do usually have a tan in the summer from being out in the field with my horse.
You mentioned that you’re learning to ride, have you had many lessons?
x Suzie” A message like the one above shows that you have taken the time to read the person’s profile and are not just contacted hundreds of people with the same message.
By commenting on something that they have written in a jokey way, you are showing that you have a sense of humour and it is also nice to compliment someone’s personality in this way.
The message also emphasises a common interest in horse riding and ends with a friendly question, which would encourage the person to reply.“Good morning Donna, I thought I’d get in touch as we have so much in common and you seem like a really nice girl.You mention that you have two dogs, what breed are they?I’ve got a springer called Tess, who’s always running around and a tabby called Cookie who sits by the fire all day.They say pets are like their owners and I guess I’m a cross between the two.All the best, Jon” Again, this example refers to what the person has said in their profile and asks a friendly question. You mentioned that you’d like to hear from tall, dark, sporty men, so I thought I’d get in touch.