College is viewed in a completely different way before and after you attend.
While kids and teenagers envision a place where they can run wild and free, adults look back at it as a valuable experience where they learned the necessary lessons to prepare for life. Dating has its own misconceptions, and dating in college gets even crazier.
If you’re looking for real talk about sex, dating, and love in college, look no further.
Expectation: Kids have this vision of a perfect person.
They’re not looking for just any mate–they’re looking for that perfect soul mate.
After hearing every set of parents discuss how they met and fell in love, kids have a perception that their ideal fantasy hook-up can and will happen. When adults reflect back on how they fell in love with their partner, they tell you an abbreviated 10-minute version of a story that took them 20 years (multiply by 525,600 to see how many minutes) to live through.
They’re leaving out the parts where they desperately fantasized about celebrities or the popular girls in school.
Real people are much different–keep your expectations in check.
When you get someone’s number, you get excited, no matter how cool you try to act. Trying to replicate a sexual experience through text is a waste of time and it makes everyone uncomfortable. Expectation: Now that everyone’s a mature adult over the age of 18, you imagine having creative and romantic encounters with mature college men and women.
You want to imagine the other person being equally giddy to hear from you. These are the cream of our nation’s crop, so they’ll have their act together and know how to treat you right.
You start with some flirty messages, and the next thing you know, you’re sending nudes and suggestive texts. Reality: College guys are selfish and ignorant, while the girls are clumsy and awkward. They are all still just students, albeit older ones.
Thirty-year-olds looks back at their college selves the same way college students looks back at their preteen selves.
All the Hollywood movies make it look like the first kiss is the most important indicator of whether or not a relationship will last.
So much pressure is put on that first kiss, and you want to see fireworks like you’ve always heard.