Not even when you’re young, gloriously debt-free and emotionally baggage-less.But it’s even more challenging after the pain of divorce.
In her book, Rebooting in Beverly Hills: A Wise and Wild Path for Navigating the Dating World, Miller not only recounts her struggles to forgive, forget and move on after the devastating failure of her third marriage (he cheated; she forgave; he kept cheating; she asked for a divorce).
But she also shares how she re-started her love life, one lousy date at a time.
Here, Miller shares seven tips for re-entering the dating world after divorce. Take the time to heal Don’t start before you’re ready.
“You can’t see clearly when you’re still angry and heartsick,” says Miller, who took nearly two years to sort herself out emotionally before she began dating again.
During those two years, Miller took very good care of herself, however.
She went out and had fun with girlfriends, took classes and read a lot of “self-help books.” She went to the spa and pampered herself, and even consulted a psychic who offered her some kooky, albeit, helpful advice, “She told me I had to bless my ex and mean it.” Taking that advice wasn’t easy “because intellectually I knew I was better off, but emotionally I was still heartbroken.
I had to get past that and to be able to have no anger left.
It took a lot of work.” The payoff of that sabbatical was that by the time she entered the dating world again, she wasn’t bitter.
She knew what she wanted from a man — and what she didn’t. Have a plan when it comes to dating “You have a list when you go to the grocery store, so why wouldn’t you when you’re doing something more important?