I allowed self-pity to consume me and held tightly to my belief of being alone and unloved. I’m sure there were other people around me who were also in pain, struggling with homelessness, sickness, financial difficulties, bereavement, worries over children. When we keep our focus on the hurt, we aren’t focused on taking control of our lives.If we blame negative circumstances for our place in life, we are giving up responsibility and control. We can to spread our misery, or we can choose to rise above our circumstances. It makes us less aware of the needs and suffering of others.
Despite his misfortune, Tony chose to control his own life and happiness.
He improved his circumstances as far as he could control them.
He made positive choices and took responsibility for his own future. Tony is a musician and vocalist with several successful albums. Remember there are other people in your life who need you.
“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life.
I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have—life itself.” ~Walter Anderson Some of us experience more adversity and painful events in our lives than others. Dreadful circumstances or tragedies will affect most of our lives at some point.
We wonder why our difficulties don’t happen to the “bad” people out there instead of us. It’s okay to cry and feel sorry for yourself and your circumstances, mope around, or get angry.
But at some point you must shake it off, let go of the past, and choose to not let it consume you entirely.
Otherwise, you won’t be able to learn from the experience and move forward in a constructive way.
Now, I am not addressing true clinical depression here. ) I had nowhere to live, no friends in that state, and I was stuck all the way across the country from anyone else I knew. I was also trapped with no money, as I’d put everything I had into his house. When I look back on that time, I see how fortunate I was that I didn’t marry that guy, and I am amazed that I didn’t give more consideration to the kind people who helped me.