In some ways, online dating and social media have leveled the playing field: Women can take charge of their dating and sex lives in ways they haven't before.
We can initiate dates or group hangouts just as easily as men do.
The dating world revolves around making the right proactive choices -- and this means that if you're ready for a monogamous relationship, you have to be clear about your goals, both to yourself and prospective partners.1.
If what you want is a long-term relationship, approach it with your goals in mind.
The right mindset is key: Start out by knowing that you are in control of the process.2.
If you're looking online, do your profile with a friend -- this will help you lighten up. Be funny, short and concise, and don't sound too cutesy.
A photo that shows you actively pursuing an interest is good because it offers information without being wordy.3. Pick out three or four guys and signal your interest. Do not give advice even if he is begging for it; this is a bad way to start. On first dates, make sure you have other plans afterward and keep them, regardless of how things are going.
When you contact someone, refer to a remark he/she made in their profile. But limit your emails to no more than two or three before suggesting a face-to-face meeting. If you're underwhelmed with this person, you will have a good escape route.
If someone shows an interest in your profile, remember that you are not obligated to respond unless you want to. Anyone who wants to prolong emailing is not interested in a relationship. Avoid this person -- he could be married, in another relationship or just a creep.5. If you are having a great time and don't want to leave, stick to your previous plan.Pay attention to whether there is a good balance in the conversation. If you are interested, say so explicitly upon leaving.(This may sound too forward, but there is nothing wrong about being clear.)9.If he emails or texts (or makes the extra effort to make a phone call!), respond, but move along and suggest meeting again.This should be a real date with a fixed time and place.