Abraham out of a sincere desire to do God's bidding—to birth an heir—, and from a realistic assessment of what was available for him to work with—the deadness of Sarah's womb—, kissed Sarah-in-bed goodbye to embrace a more workable method: Hagar in bed.Similarly, Joshua Harris sincerely wants to work into a good marriage as God plans, and he realistically assesses the immaturity of high school dating, so he kisses it goodbye in order to embrace an amalgum of fellowship-meeting interactions and counsel & advice of his parents and elders.
Group social interactions and parents' counsel are in service to the dating couple's learning and deciding interactions, not meant to replace them.
Joshua Harris represents a segment of Christians who have taken upon themselves the critique of dating practice, fulfilling the maxim: , a paraphrase so convoluted it leaves one wondering what the apostle actually said.
Furthermore, the subject itself is complex enough to throw the uninformed. There's an important concept given succinctly in William Simon / John H.
Gagnon, behavior, not the masked expression of primordial drive.
The individual can learn sexual behavior as he or she learns other behavior—through scripts that in this case give the self, other persons, and situations erotic abilities or content.
Desire, privacy, opportunity, and propinquity with an attractive member of the opposite sex are not, in themselves, enough; in ordinary circumstances, nothing sexual will occur unless one or both actors organize these elements into an appropriate script. A belief in the sociocultural dominance of sexual behavior finds support in cross-cultural research as well as in data restricted to the United States.
Psychosexual development is universal—but it takes many forms and tempos.
People in different cultures construct their scripts differently; and in our own society, different segments of the population act out different psychosexual dramas.
It is because 'in our own society, different segments of the population act out different psychosexual dramas' that Joshua Harris will be following one script and the "world" another.
Which script other I bumped into a friend outside a store at the shopping mall and told him of a chair I'd purchased at a different store.
He wondered how much I paid, so I took a step forward and whispered it to him.