I've heard stories from second-hand sources about Chinese women wanting to date to get better at English or get a green card.
In contrast though, Chinese guys who date Western women, tend to stay in China.
Part of this comes from their obligation to care for their aging parents and grandparents.
Also it's easier for them to continue their career here, especially if they're older and already established in their career.
A decade ago, my plans for coming to China included teaching for a year, two...maybe even three, before returning to the US to start my teaching career.
Dating was not part of my plan, so when it happened, I was completely unprepared for it.
Looking back, I would have loved to know what I was getting myself into or at least some advice on navigating Chinese dating culture.Since my experience was limited to just my husband, I got some additional input from two American bloggers living in China: Jocelyn Eikenburg writes Speaking Of China and Jo Kelly-Bai writes Life Behind The Wall.Both talk about their relationships with their Chinese significant others.Here are some of our insights about dating Chinese guys: Chinese guys, with pressure from their parents and coming from a different culture of dating, by-and-large date to marry.So much so, that my husband didn't ask to date me, he asked me to be with him for the rest of his life. Compared to most of their Western counterparts, Chinese men start thinking about marriage much earlier in the relationship.So, if you're dating a Chinese guy, make sure to figure out what the both of you want out of the relationship so you can manage expectations.