The focus of your issues may be different, but the degree is always the same. When you are heart broken, sleeping a lot, or not sleeping at all, eating poorly or not at all, crying, drinking, under-performing at work, and generally not on top of your game your stock values are low, low , low.
So before you jump ship because you think your partner is too unhealthy, work on getting as healthy as possible yourself and see if he or she rises to theoccassion with you!
Lose the judgement and criticism and help one another grow.
If you give it your best shot and it still doesn’t help, then it’s time to dig out that life vest and swim for the shore.
When a relationship ends, one of two things is typically happening.
One, you are being spared something (such as a life with someone who is not well-suited to be your partner); or you are being prepared for something new (learning lessons that will prove invaluable to you in your next relationship). There is a period of natural grieving and heartache for both partners, if you are the one who ended the relationship!
Unfortunately, though, no matter how good a break-up might be FOR you, they rarely FEEL good to you. If you move on too quickly with hopes of sidestepping the pain (commonly known as a “rebound relationship”), this grief will find you later, somehow, often when you least expect it.
Sometimes a partner will grieve the relationship before ending it. ” “How come I’m the only one feeling anything here?
Which leaves the unsuspecting partner very hurt by her partner’s seeming “coldness” about the break-up. ” Typically this occurs when one partner does the work of grieving the relationship BEFORE ending the relationship. No one is fooling anyone when it comes to love…we get what we are. If you find this notion intolerable, or unacceptable – it’s probably time to take a closer look at your relationship.
Contrary to popular opinion, when it comes to dating, opposites do not attract. Sure, she may like to play football and you might like to shop – but I promise you this: I like to say, “You deserve every relationship you choose.” You cannot attract a partner who is healthier than you. If you are certain that you are healthier than your partner, ask yourself this: “If I am so much healthier than she is, what am I doing here?