While some people clearly feel proud to have a hottie on their arm, others are more comfortable having the upper hand in the beauty department.
My friend Millie Brown, a performance artist widely known as the “vomit artist,” has a lot of experience with dating freakishly attractive men.
Millie and I lived together during our early and mid-twenties, and at the time, it felt like every other week she had a new model boyfriend.
“It wasn’t that I was specifically attracted to ,” Millie clarified recently.
The other day, at a Fashion Week party, my friend Alan and I stood against a wall, scanning the room for hot people, as you do.
“It’s weird,” he said contemplatively, staring into a sea of models.
“Lately, in order to want to sleep with someone, I actually have to them as a person.” He said this as if it were a mind-blowing revelation.I told him that, at 31, the realization was probably a bit overdue, but I knew what he meant: As one gets older, it becomes harder and harder to be attracted to someone simply because of the way they look.Is it because, with age, we care more about a relationship’s potential longevity, rather than just instant sexual gratification?Or perhaps we become more acutely aware of the impermanence of beauty after experiencing our own signs of aging?Or, more simply, have we just realized that dating freakishly beautiful people isn’t all it’s cracked up to be?A female friend once told me, “It’s always best to date attractive men, but not attractive that everyone’s constantly trying to jump on their dick, because that’s just stressful.” The sentiment actually made a lot of sense to me.