I kind of like it, too, although I should get my quibbles out of the way first.
The shirt suggests that we’re talking not about an adult woman but an underage daughter.
It took me years to realize this but parents who didn’t have rules for their teens tended to be parents who just didn’t care enough about their kids to provide guidance.
But that gets me to the main reflection of this piece.
While the shirt claims it’s from “feminist father” — it actually has some really good ancient wisdom woven throughout it.
You’ll note that while the message is supposedly that the daughter makes the rules, there are in fact three additional rules after “I don’t make the rules.” And what this really shows us is the importance of having a dad around to provide the guidance he kind of claims he’s not providing.
If the father is out of the picture or not around to discuss rules, relationship outcomes are in fact less desirable.
As the National Fatherhood Project puts it: They also have data suggesting that the absence of a father is tied to greater risk of abuse, neglect, malnutrition, obesity, delinquency and incarceration, aggressive behavior and relationship instability.So just the presence of this father is a powerful, powerful message to the daughter and to those she might date.And his mere presence is a positive factor in all sorts of outcomes.It’s totally controversial to say it, but it’s also true, that women are generally the ones in a sexual relationship to decide what level of intimacy — and when — will occur.Here’s an animated discussion of some of why that is: Some feminists objected to that video on the grounds that “it’s bursting with false and blatantly sexist claims, like the ideas that men want sex more, women want marriage more, and the decline of marriage rates will destroy the world.”Ah yes, where would anyone get the idea that men generally want sex more?Maybe from observing people with pulses or maybe from stuff like this: CLARK AND A GROUP of students planned out a simple experiment, which played out in the spring of 1978: Five college-aged women and four college-aged men took turns standing at one of five quadrangles on the Florida State campus on a weekday.