The majority of these issues could be resolved by just doing what you did – backing off, giving the guy some space and letting him come to you and put in the effort.
Too often I see girls smothering or nagging a guy when he doesn’t do what they want him to.
So to answer your question, I don’t think this guy is a screwball at all.
Like most guys, he’s probably just figuring his situation out and simultaneously figuring out if a relationship with you is really what he’s looking for.
I think he’s a normal guy and I think you are handling the situation well.
I’ve been on several dates with this guy who seems to show more interest and put in more effort when I start caring less.
The reason I started caring less is because he was not being that considerate about our plans (i.e. When I care less, he tries harder and puts in more effort which causes me to end up liking him more again.
Maybe my situation is unusual, but in general , after several dates, is it okay for a girl ask a guy to hang out sometimes?Or, should she keep letting the guy initiate plans until they are actually in a relationship? The situation that you’re describing actually illustrates something that I’ve talked about before.In previous posts, I’ve talked about how when a guy is being flaky, doesn’t text back, or isn’t doing something you want him to do, the worst response is to become needy.In your case, you weren’t needy – you didn’t make a big deal about it and you backed off when he wasn’t putting in the effort that you expect.As a result, he started putting in more of an effort because you gave him space to do so.I have to tell you, my e-mail box is FILLED with e-mails about how some guy didn’t text back or didn’t call or didn’t set his Facebook status to say “In a relationship”, etc.