As long as you're talking and listening to each other, you're well on the way to a healthy sex life.However, even the most contented lovers can have fun trying new things; here are a few ideas.
Gradually move on to touching and stroking each other, masturbation, oral sex (what is oral sex? This week may help heighten your senses to all the other wonderful feelings you can share when you’re having sex. As part of foreplay, it's a great way to start things off slowly, and relax into the feel of each other’s skin as your arousal intensifies.
However, a simple massage that doesn’t lead to sex can also work wonders for your sex life.
A non-sexual massage will familiarise (or refamiliarise) you with your partner’s body, reduce stress and reaffirm the intimacy between you.
If you don’t want a massage to lead to sex, discuss this with your partner so you can avoid any misunderstanding. Good sex can embrace all the senses, not just touch.
Scented oil for a massage (don't get oil on a latex condom as this can damage it), music and candles for soft lighting can all be erotic, as well as listening to your partner’s breathing and the sounds that they make. If you both want to, you could mix food and sex feed each other something delicious and juicy, such as strawberries.
Whether it’s sweet nothings or your sexy intentions, whispering things to each other can add an extra thrill. A sexy phone call leave both of you looking forward to the event for hours or days.This works with texts and emails too, but make sure you send them to the right person, and remember that your employer has the right to access your work email.Masturbation, by yourself or with your partner, can be a bonus for your sex life.Exploring your own body and sexual responses means that you can share this knowledge with your partner.Masturbating your partner can help you learn more about what turns them on.It can also be a useful option if one of you doesn’t feel like full penetrative sex, or if you have different levels of desire. If you and your partner both feel comfortable, using sex toys can be an arousing thing to do together.